Weekend Wrap-up

Hey gals and guys! I hope you all had a Fab weekend! I did :) it was busy as all hell but it was all worth it!

So I gave Weston a small birthday dinner on Saturday! What a good time! My honey bunny had a fabulous time! My dad even joined in! I was so shocked he talked and engaged with Wes! WOOT! Now while having this great time with my family I started to think about Dwayne:/ and I started wondering how he was doing? Wondering what he was up to since I hadn't spoken to him months. Yea I know you are looking with the WTF face! I started pondering how is it possible this man has this type of hold on me. I mean yes I loved him at one point and time but that ship had sailed and he was old news to me!

Now I automatically felt really horrible that I was thinking about him while I was at my current boyfriends bday get together. So that night I googled how to block a number from texting, calling etc and deleted Dwayne's #'s of my phone. Now I am not one of those people who stores #'s in my memory thank goodness! So maybe now I am rid of him for good! I really want this to be the end so I can stop torturing myself with all the what ifs because its not fair to me nor is it appropriate for me to be thinking about my ex! Especially when I have this perfect man that would give me the world right in front of me!

So Sunday we stayed in bed, watched TV and slept. So relaxing I LOVED IT! Now Wes has told me he loved me and I have said it back! He has also told me that he is so glad he met me and wouldn't intentionally do anything to mess this up. You know what for the first time ever I believe it! I never believe men. Horrible I know! But if you have been through the BS I have been through you would understand.

So today I realized that he is what I have been waiting for! I am happy and blessed I met him and I wouldn't trade it for anything! Now if I could only shake thinking about Mr.Wrong and focus on Mr.Right life would be fabulous! I wonder if men have these issues??? What the hell am I talking about they have the same issues we do they just aren't as vocal as women are. Well that is my rant for the day! Happy Monday!

New Music

So I came across this chick named Adele the album is called 21 and oh my do I like the sound she is bringing! She reminds me of Amy Winehouse minus the booze and drugs! I listened to her album from beginning to end - NOT one song skipped! That is so rare for me! But this girls voice is powerful! If you have a free moment google her! I have a different music style but I swear this download is worth all of the space :)

My Weekend!

This weekend is one worth blogging about:

Saturday: I spent the day with my honey bunny ( hehehe that's Weston's pet nickname). We laid around and watched hours of Law and order: Special victims unit. I LOVE that show and I am turning Wes into a fan!
(success) hehehe.

Sunday: I went to Brunch with a few friends. I found this really good brunch spot on yelp! We had such a good time. Good food, good laughs and finally a chance to catch up! Unfortunately it was a task and a half to get to this place, sit down and eat. By the time we sat down to eat it was well after 2pm so instead of brunch it was a very late lunch. Luckily this place served breakfast all day! * Dougies* I would have been pissed if I didn't get my damn waffle! LOL After brunch I came home to take a nap and get ready for this comedy show. Wes and I went out in celebration of his birthday and we had a fabulous night! The comedy show was funny as hell! We come home and his friends come by for a few drinks! I have my usual glass of wine then birthday shots start flowing. I stay away from shots especially shots of Hennessy. Finally after 3 am we say goodbye to his friend and climb into bed.


Monday:Wes let me sleep in. He was so quiet, he closed the blinds and let me sleep in like a princess! I slept until 2:30 pm! Honey when I tell you I feel like a new person! After getting up showering and washing my hair my honey bunny makes me dinner :) Yummy burgers and fries ( Baked NOT fried). I am so happy about having this day off! I am well rested and actually not dreading heading to work tomorrow!

Kanye West - All Of The Lights ft. Rihanna, Kid Cudi

I am slightly obsessed with Kanye West! He is pure genius! I would love to spend one day with him! Just one!

That Love Doesn't Live Here Anymore!

Happy Saturday !

So I spoke to my BFF that lives in Texas this morning. Now we both have been super busy in our lives but it is always a happy occasion when we get to speak :). Anyways she texted me early this morning and the text read " I know its early but hit me at home when you wake up, k? Gotta ask you something too. Kinda weird! LOL" I instantly jump up, brush my teeth and start to dial her! We chit chat for what seemed like 5 mins but my call log says 2 hours and 20 mins LOL. We catch up on everything from work, her kids and her new engagement. Then she hits me with this : So I got this phone call yesterday at 4:01 pm from Dwayne. My stomach automatically sinks! I have that overwhelming feeling that I need to vomit! I am thinking WTF was this fool thinking? Why is he involving her in any of this! I let Shayan (That's my BFF's name) finish her story. She didn't answer the call but had kept his # when I gave it to her years ago incase anything were to ever happen to me. She says he didn't leave a message but was just shocked by the fact he had the nerve to call her of all people because she cant stand him for all the heartache he had caused me! By the end of the conversation we are both laughing and I am pondering what the hell Dwayne's motive was! Shayan and I say our goodbyes. We promise we will speak soon. Then I start to think........

Now I am going to give you the long story short it has been a good 2 months since I have answered Dwayne's calls. A few weeks ago he called left me a message yelling and screaming about me not answering his calls. I paid it no mind and laughed it off. I have thought about calling back but I know its NOT healthy for me! Now its been a little over a year since I've seen this man! I gave him 4 years of my life. I realized it wasn't going to work and I moved on. Now this dumbass for some reason has all these dreams about us getting back together! Ummm yeah thats not gonna happen! He wants to get back together because he knows I am happy! Boybye Miss me with the bullshit ..... Cause That Love Doesn't Live Here Anymore!

Words from Terrance J.

I read this on Necole Bitchie's blog site the other day and it inspired me! People do not become successful by luck it is because they are blessed I believe. As I get older I am starting to realize even if you are making money it doesnt matter at all if you aren't happy!

Today is a new day. A new opportunity to follow your dreams. Take advantage of this blessing. Take that leap. Whatever your dream is, you have to step towards it. The more steps you take the more the universe will conspire to assist you…

If you want to run a label, quit your job at the bank & intern at a label. If you want to be a doctor, apply to school today, etc. I wanted to act, so every week I go to acting school for 14 hours, study film & actors, read about projects, etc. Once I took steps, roles came.

A girl replied, how can I pay my bills if I quit my job to follow my dreams? – when following your dreams you will be temporarily inconvenienced. Tyler Perry was HOMELESS years before becoming a MILLIONAIRE. Only you can determine the amount of sacrifice your dreams are worth.

Before 106 I had a job making 30k but I wasnt happy. I quit. Moved to NY, worked small jobs to get by, & lived on @FredWhit FLOOR 8 MONTHS! I just meet so many people that want to reach their goals & then complain when it sounds hard! Go watch Pursuit of Happiness

Everybody has a different story. U may have kids, mortgage, bills, etc. But God is powerful. There is always a way to follow your dreams!



Read more: A Message From Terrence J | Necole Bitchie.com

Do you agree or disagree?

So I was cleaning across this legnthy article that I rememeber reading about 3 years ago. Makes a lot of sense doesnt it?I found this statement from a gentleman on Black Voices. I feel that a lot of what he has to say is very true (even if it hurts).

Bottom line--if I sleep with a woman I don't know or care about SEX
is NOT going to make me care. (I stopped doing that years ago) That
kind of sex is like scratching an itch. Once a man scratches, he's through.
He ain't sitting around thinking about that spot that itched or how good
it felt scratching it.He's moving on with his life until that spot itches
again and it don't matter which hand he scratches it with, just as long
as he gets rid of the itch.

Too many women PRETEND they can handle a sexual fling, but wind up
getting caught up and wanting us to romance and wine and dine them and
pretend we're having a "relationship" when it's NOTHING but a booty
call. Come on, ladies, y'all know I'm telling the truth.

Unfortunately, ladies, you are part of our problem. You sleep with us
BEFORE you know us or what we're about. Having sex with a man does not
automatically make that a "relationship". Many women will deny they
think like this but I'm speaking from personal experience. Also, ladies
know when their men are fooling around and still turn a blind eye by
getting mad at the other woman. Now, what kind of sense does that make?
Why should that woman make YOU (a total stranger) a priority in her
life? IF HE DID NOT MARRY YOU HE IS STILL SINGLE. The "other woman" is not breaking up a "happy home".

Many women marry men who were cheating BEFORE they walked down the aisle and then are SHOCKED that a fancy wedding dress or an expensive walk down the aisle didn't change who he was. Why should he change? YOU let him know it was acceptable by sticking around that long.

Ladies, start living with your eyes OPEN. Most shady men give themselves
away one way or another, usually before the first 30 days. Women have to
stop "rewarding" unfaithful men by pretending it ain't happening. All of
us Black Men (BM) do not cheat. I do not cheat on my lady so don't buy
the hype. I know other BM who do not but many men WILL cheat if there
are NO real penalties for it.

Stop jumping into bed with brothers YOU DON'T KNOW. That means fewer
opportunities for men to cheat. Women have to STOP being so afraid to
ask the important questions that would reveal his TRUE lifestyle. Worry
LESS about what kind of job he has and what kind of car he drives and
encourage him to talk about his past, particularly his past with women.
OPEN those ears and listen. Does he put down his ex-women and blame them for everything? And don't be so vain. You are NOT a better woman than
his last. If he dogged her out, you will probably be NEXT.

Observe him when you are with him. Do you have his home number? Work
number? Have you seen where he lives? Where he works? Is he secretive?
Did you ask if he's married or engaged? How does he treat other people?
Listen to what he says, NOT what you want to hear. Stop INTERPRETING the
meaning of what he says to fit your purposes. If he says, "I'm not
lookin' for nothing right now" -- DON'T tell yourself, "Aw, he just
scared of getting hurt. I can change his mind.." NO YOU CAN'T. He said
exactly what the hell he meant. BM don't have to lie when so many BW are
already DEAF.

If you can't answer BASIC questions about a man DON'T OPEN YOUR LEGS. I could kinda understand back in the days when sex wouldn't KILL people but now? there's no excuse and if a BW takes that huge risk of sleeping with a STRANGER then she better protect herself -- sexually AND
emotionally.

Show our a$$ to the door if we pressure you for sex too soon. Don't be
afraid t o be alone. After you give our a$$ some you will probably be
alone anyway but now you feel like a fool. In other words, take your
time and check us out. if we REALLY like you, we'll stick around. BUT if
you decided to sleep with a man you hardly know, PROTECT yourself and
keep your expectations to ZERO. We do not owe you a relationship or
another date just because you had sex with us. That's not how it works,
baby.

I have TOO many female friends who give me horror stories that could
have been avoided if they'd done their homework first OR moved SLOWER
before giving up the panties. I try as a BM to give them the best advice
I can but that won't mean a damn thing if BW continue to live in a dream
world. You are TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE for your own sexual behavior the same
as I am. Blaming the man won't change a damn thing. BW have t o look in
the mirror and take SOME of the blame for what's wrong with BM/BW
relationships. Let me end by saying....

SEX DOES NOT = A RELATIONSHIP

GIVING A MAN A READY-MADE FAMILY WILL NOT MAKE HIM COMMIT IF HE DOESN'T
WANT TO

A MAN WILL NOT RESPECT A WOMAN WHO DOES NOT RESPECT HERSELF OR HER BODY

IF YOU TRADE SEX FOR MATERIAL THINGS YOU ARE PROSTITUTING YOURSELF

IF HE DOESN'T TAKE CARE OF HIS OTHER CHILDREN WHY WOULD YOU HAVE A BABY
WITH HIM?

IF YOU REWARD A DOG WHY SHOULD MEN STOP BEING DOGS?

BRING MORE TO THE TABLE THAN YOUR BODY. NO YOUR [STUFF] IS NOT MADE OF
GOLD. IT IS ONLY AS GOOD AS I THINK IT IS. BELIEVE THAT.

BW are going to have to raise their standards if they expect BM to do
it. The question is, are my beautiful BW up to the challenge? Are you
willing to be strong and stop taking the easy way out? Ladies, ladies,
ladies, hit me back with some truth, not some bullsh#t. I don't want to
hear: "What you said don't refer to me 'cause I got my sh#t together and
I'm a proud black woman who intimidates men and I never made no
mistakes, it's those other women who do things like that."

No, no, no! I don't want to hear you putting yourself on a pedestal
because I KNOW you've made mistakes. I want you to hit me back with some
TRUTH. What are BW going to do about these shady, shaky relationships
that wind up in divorce court 60-70%% of the time, that's if we bother
getting married at all? What are BW going to do DIFFERENT to make this
sh#t better? Hit me back, ladies.

peace,
crammasters

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Today is a GIFT, that is why it is called the PRESENT.

Making the simple complicated is easy.
Making the complicated simple requires
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