Do you agree or disagree?

So I was cleaning across this legnthy article that I rememeber reading about 3 years ago. Makes a lot of sense doesnt it?I found this statement from a gentleman on Black Voices. I feel that a lot of what he has to say is very true (even if it hurts).

Bottom line--if I sleep with a woman I don't know or care about SEX
is NOT going to make me care. (I stopped doing that years ago) That
kind of sex is like scratching an itch. Once a man scratches, he's through.
He ain't sitting around thinking about that spot that itched or how good
it felt scratching it.He's moving on with his life until that spot itches
again and it don't matter which hand he scratches it with, just as long
as he gets rid of the itch.

Too many women PRETEND they can handle a sexual fling, but wind up
getting caught up and wanting us to romance and wine and dine them and
pretend we're having a "relationship" when it's NOTHING but a booty
call. Come on, ladies, y'all know I'm telling the truth.

Unfortunately, ladies, you are part of our problem. You sleep with us
BEFORE you know us or what we're about. Having sex with a man does not
automatically make that a "relationship". Many women will deny they
think like this but I'm speaking from personal experience. Also, ladies
know when their men are fooling around and still turn a blind eye by
getting mad at the other woman. Now, what kind of sense does that make?
Why should that woman make YOU (a total stranger) a priority in her
life? IF HE DID NOT MARRY YOU HE IS STILL SINGLE. The "other woman" is not breaking up a "happy home".

Many women marry men who were cheating BEFORE they walked down the aisle and then are SHOCKED that a fancy wedding dress or an expensive walk down the aisle didn't change who he was. Why should he change? YOU let him know it was acceptable by sticking around that long.

Ladies, start living with your eyes OPEN. Most shady men give themselves
away one way or another, usually before the first 30 days. Women have to
stop "rewarding" unfaithful men by pretending it ain't happening. All of
us Black Men (BM) do not cheat. I do not cheat on my lady so don't buy
the hype. I know other BM who do not but many men WILL cheat if there
are NO real penalties for it.

Stop jumping into bed with brothers YOU DON'T KNOW. That means fewer
opportunities for men to cheat. Women have to STOP being so afraid to
ask the important questions that would reveal his TRUE lifestyle. Worry
LESS about what kind of job he has and what kind of car he drives and
encourage him to talk about his past, particularly his past with women.
OPEN those ears and listen. Does he put down his ex-women and blame them for everything? And don't be so vain. You are NOT a better woman than
his last. If he dogged her out, you will probably be NEXT.

Observe him when you are with him. Do you have his home number? Work
number? Have you seen where he lives? Where he works? Is he secretive?
Did you ask if he's married or engaged? How does he treat other people?
Listen to what he says, NOT what you want to hear. Stop INTERPRETING the
meaning of what he says to fit your purposes. If he says, "I'm not
lookin' for nothing right now" -- DON'T tell yourself, "Aw, he just
scared of getting hurt. I can change his mind.." NO YOU CAN'T. He said
exactly what the hell he meant. BM don't have to lie when so many BW are
already DEAF.

If you can't answer BASIC questions about a man DON'T OPEN YOUR LEGS. I could kinda understand back in the days when sex wouldn't KILL people but now? there's no excuse and if a BW takes that huge risk of sleeping with a STRANGER then she better protect herself -- sexually AND
emotionally.

Show our a$$ to the door if we pressure you for sex too soon. Don't be
afraid t o be alone. After you give our a$$ some you will probably be
alone anyway but now you feel like a fool. In other words, take your
time and check us out. if we REALLY like you, we'll stick around. BUT if
you decided to sleep with a man you hardly know, PROTECT yourself and
keep your expectations to ZERO. We do not owe you a relationship or
another date just because you had sex with us. That's not how it works,
baby.

I have TOO many female friends who give me horror stories that could
have been avoided if they'd done their homework first OR moved SLOWER
before giving up the panties. I try as a BM to give them the best advice
I can but that won't mean a damn thing if BW continue to live in a dream
world. You are TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE for your own sexual behavior the same
as I am. Blaming the man won't change a damn thing. BW have t o look in
the mirror and take SOME of the blame for what's wrong with BM/BW
relationships. Let me end by saying....

SEX DOES NOT = A RELATIONSHIP

GIVING A MAN A READY-MADE FAMILY WILL NOT MAKE HIM COMMIT IF HE DOESN'T
WANT TO

A MAN WILL NOT RESPECT A WOMAN WHO DOES NOT RESPECT HERSELF OR HER BODY

IF YOU TRADE SEX FOR MATERIAL THINGS YOU ARE PROSTITUTING YOURSELF

IF HE DOESN'T TAKE CARE OF HIS OTHER CHILDREN WHY WOULD YOU HAVE A BABY
WITH HIM?

IF YOU REWARD A DOG WHY SHOULD MEN STOP BEING DOGS?

BRING MORE TO THE TABLE THAN YOUR BODY. NO YOUR [STUFF] IS NOT MADE OF
GOLD. IT IS ONLY AS GOOD AS I THINK IT IS. BELIEVE THAT.

BW are going to have to raise their standards if they expect BM to do
it. The question is, are my beautiful BW up to the challenge? Are you
willing to be strong and stop taking the easy way out? Ladies, ladies,
ladies, hit me back with some truth, not some bullsh#t. I don't want to
hear: "What you said don't refer to me 'cause I got my sh#t together and
I'm a proud black woman who intimidates men and I never made no
mistakes, it's those other women who do things like that."

No, no, no! I don't want to hear you putting yourself on a pedestal
because I KNOW you've made mistakes. I want you to hit me back with some
TRUTH. What are BW going to do about these shady, shaky relationships
that wind up in divorce court 60-70%% of the time, that's if we bother
getting married at all? What are BW going to do DIFFERENT to make this
sh#t better? Hit me back, ladies.

peace,
crammasters

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