Friends- How many of us have them?

Hey Love bugs! Its been a minute. Time has just been getting away from me! I have been meaning to right this post for a while now! So anyways I want to touch on the subject of friendship. The good, Bad and down right UGLY.

Most recently I have been going through that stage in life where I am getting rid of everything! Whether it be clothes, shoes or sad to say friendships.

Growing up my mom always told me everyone is not your friend. I never believed her, but I tell you she has been right on the money lately! I mean over the years my mom has been a damn good judge of character. She has always expressed who she liked, Disliked and could NOT stand. And most times she was right with her character judgment! Even when she was right I never listened and had to learn the hard way! You ever heard the saying "a hard head makes a soft ass" Ummmm that is me! That saying was made after me. I dont listen until it is too late!

Now I have a horrible habit of holding on to things that aren't so good for me. Friendships especially! As of last year I have cut out a lot people I thought were friends. Friendship is NOT something that is supposed to be convenient or out of convenience. Your supposed to be there for your friends no matter what. I'd like to think I can count on my friends when things are good and bad!

Most recently a friend of mine chose her new boyfriend over our long term friendship. Now this is something that occurs when your young. As an adult I would expect a friend to be able to juggle having a relationship and keeping friendships that were there prior intact. Nonetheless I removed myself from the friendship. I don't have time to be second rate to anyone. If she calls cool, if she sends a text cool. But me making an effort to make our friendship work is a negative! When and if shit hits the fan my phone lines are open. But I will NOT be making any additional effort! The way she ended our last conversation was hurtful, shocking and down right rude.

It always amazes me the things that can come between a friendship, but the one that especially gets me is girls not being able to be separated from their man/men. I think it shows a lot about a persons character if they are so attached to someone they barely even know ! I mean don’t get me wrong I love to see my friends happy, but its extremely unhealthy to not have time apart in a relationship. Time to know what you like and what makes you happy! I was told by a close friend my expectations were too high. But I just don't get it. I guess its not really for me to get.